try:
“I’m glad you’re telling me now. What can I do to help?”
Instead of:
“You need to stand up for yourself.”
try:
“Let’s figure out together what would help you feel safe.”
The goal is to create an environment in which the child feels believed and supported.
Don’t Blame the Victim
Statements such as:
“Why didn’t you fight back?”
“Why were you there?”
“Why didn’t you tell someone?”
can unintentionally make a child feel responsible for what happened.
Responsibility belongs with the person choosing to cause harm.
A child should not have to become tougher, louder, or more aggressive simply to deserve safety.
Documenting Incidents Can Help
If repeated incidents are occurring, documentation can be useful.
They should understand that they can approach:
Parents
Teachers
School counselors
Coaches
Administrators
Another trusted adult
