Her first treatment lasted five hours. I sat beside her the entire time. When the nausea began, she squeezed my hand and apologized.
“Stop saying sorry,” I told her.
“I don’t know how.”
That answer hurt more than I expected.
The hardest part of those first treatments was the helplessness. I could bring tea, straighten a blanket, talk to nurses, keep track of medications, and hold her hand when the nausea came. I could not remove the cancer from her body. During the final hours of one infusion, she slept while I watched the medication drip through the line and thought about how much of her life I had never witnessed because she had always preferred to carry difficult things privately. Now she had no choice but to let me witness this. I decided that if being present was the only useful thing I could do, then I would be fully present.
Three weeks into treatment, I had to travel to Seattle for four days of business meetings arranged long before the diagnosis. I prepared everything before leaving. I wrote Mom’s medication schedule on cards, stocked the refrigerator with crackers, rice, broth, ginger tea, and applesauce, and texted Gabriel her appointment times.
“She takes the anti-nausea medication at eight in the morning and eight at night,” I reminded him.
“I know.”
“She will not ask you if she needs help. You have to check on her.”
“I’ll check on her.”
“Gabriel.”
“Sara, I’ve got it.”
I left because I believed him.
Every evening, Mom sent short texts.
“Fine. Eating a little.”
“Slept okay.”
“Took the m
