she.
Forty dollars is what she had in the house, and it is the only thing either of them did that night that was not about winning.
Nineteen, pregnant, no home, on my own.
I left the state six weeks later, when a girl I had been at school with found me a room in another city.
I changed my number. I started again.
And I kept my baby.
His name is Leo. It was not my choice. It
The next ten years were the hardest of my life and I am not going to make them sound noble.
Two jobs. Community college, which took me five years instead of two. Awake until two most nights at a kitchen table and asleep only when my body took the decision out of my hands.
There were months I genuinely did not know how we were going to manage, and there was one winter I would rather not write down.
And every single time I looked at that boy I found another reason.
He is clever. He is kind in a way that is entirely his own doing. He notices far more than a
child that age should have to notice, which is my fault and not his.
And the questions got harder to get round.
Why don’t we ever see Grandma and Grandpa?
At six I said they live a long way away. At eight I said it is complicated. At nine he stopped asking for about a year, which was worse.
Because I could not make myself walk back into a house where two people had chosen their pride over their own daughter.
Then, on his tenth birthday, after the cake, he looked at me with that face he does and said:
Can I meet them? Just once?
And I sat there and worked out that I owed him that, and that I had been calling it protection for ten years when for at least four of them it had been something else.
I said yes on the Tuesday and then spent
I wrote an email to my mother’s old address twice and deleted both.
And on the Thursday, Leo — who is ten and who notices everything — came and stood in the kitchen doorway and said: we don’t have to go if you don’t want.
Which is the exact sentence I have been saying to adults my entire life to get
